Primal Repression

I remember, when I was a kid, when you liked someone, you'd tell them; or even if you didn't your friend would embarrass you and spill the beans to your crush.

I remember, when I was a kid, that if you were asked out by a boy and you'd said yes, that you were officially going steady.

I remember, when I was a kid, that enough value was held where they wouldn't ask you out if they didn't have complete intent of making them your girlfriend or boyfriend.

I remember, when I was a kid, the idea of love was so much simpler, much more pure and genuine.

I remember, when I was a kid, relationships were valued until they ran their course.

But it's not like that anymore, and I can't quite figure out where we went wrong. As I'm getting older, so is the rest of my generation, the same kids who grew up with the same memories of young love and heartbreak as I did.

Where did we go wrong? How did we get to a point where love "grew up" to be a lost cause?

Dating has evolved to become a slaughter of emotions to the point where we've started carrying around shields and bayonets, and are quick to turn to defense. But why?

I fear common decency and respect has gone out the window, and into the internet. We're overwhelmed with options. There's too many to choose from now that we have a giant database of singletons. Instead of getting to know people in our everyday lives, at a natural pace and building lasting relationships, we're given the opportunity to crash-course a person, and leave them in the junkyard.

It's keeping us from committing, whether we realize it or not.

"What if there's someone better?" constantly nags our subconscious.

We're losing sight of what is real and of what is good and honestly it just might be right in front of our eyes.

It's a disaster, really...

We're making infidelity easier.

We've adapted knowing if we refuse to commit, then no one can stop us from keeping our options open, keeping them at a swipes reach.

We're only fueling the fire.

Making excuses to have multiple partners,
making excuses to keep our distance,
making excuses to avoid building trust,
making excuses to avert getting hurt,
making excuses for the sake of making excuses,
and all that these excuses are making, is things worse.

We're wasting our time building fleeting interactions instead of investing our time in building deep meaningful connections. We're only cheating OURSELVES from experiencing the most wonderful gift we have in this life, the ONE AND ONLY GIFT that money and society can't take away from us, YET WE'RE SO EASILY TAKING IT FROM OURSELVES.

I'm over it.

Come feel with me.